That Rape thing is not good… Media banks on a story yet again!

It is another gang rape, this time in Mumbai. We have been unable to wake up even after 16th December tragedy with Damini. The recent news of gang rape in Mumbai struck me like a bolt, that too in an area like Lower Parel at 6.30 PM in the evening.

The place was secluded, the property belonging to erstwhile Shakti Mills, and no one could hear her screams. Why in the world are we even trying them. At best, the rapists should be hanged and made an example for others – do it and you meet the similar fate.

I think a lot of this has been said in the news channels, papers, internet and almost everywhere and was deciding against writing one, though my heart and prayers go out to the victim and her family.

The reason I why was forced to write about was the claim made by Hindustan Times in today’s Mumbai edition. Even though the Police never said that the accused had raped many other women before, the paper went ahead and added that the accused have raped four other women (rag-pickers).
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The effects and ill-effects of the protests over rape in Delhi

Wake up India! She is dead.

The title for todays HT is to the point. And hell yes, we all have to be awaken to what is happening. Its not only Delhi, the decorated rape capital of Independent India, and also the Capital of Republic of India. For one, the whole agenda of protests is to get Damini or Patient X, justice and strengthen laws for Rape to ensure it instills fear and hoping that this help women be safe in our country.

The rapists should, by all means, get the harshest of the punishments, including capital punishment. And the entire process be in front of the media, who can broadcast it live. And their death should not be easy, and everyone in our country and outside should be able to see it. Feel it. And this should be practiced for every other rape case in India.

But has all the protests deterred the intentions of men? The 5 of the six who raped Damini were worried of her death, than feeling sorry or disgust about their behavior. Similarly, after this much highlighted case, there were one gang rape and 3 other rapes reported in the National Capital Region. Does it mean that to them, all these protests, it does not even matter?

So there it is, the real culprit. Mentality.

Now why has this mentality stemmed so firm that even huge protests like the one for Patient X has not even dented the confidence of rapists or would be rapists? Less or no Education is one of the reasons often cited and it is not true in all cases. Its the way women are treated at our homes. Yes, we are and should take this accountability.

Why are boys the most loved ones? At my home too, I am loved by mother though she does not hate or love less to my lovely little sister, but probably expresses a bit more for me. But at the same time, she professed always to respect women from our childhood. She spoke to both of us as a friend and informed us about the ills of the society we are in, including rape and crimes against women. Yes, its true. I dont know, and have not heard from others if they were treated in a similar manner. If they were not, then this is the right time to make a correction and profess this to their kids.

While it may have been something I rubbed off during initial days, and recognize it as my mother’s best learning after an incident. One of my cousins while showing me emails from his inbox on viagra and subsequently offered me a job to be work as a gay massage parlor. Its not only women who are exploited. I am sure there are so many of us who have similar offers, or sexual advances made by our own cousins. Heck, there are those cases where parents are involved.

I also believe that of many reasons women or girls are seen in different light in India, one of them is the Dowry. The thought that a grown up daughter costs a fortune to marry off is such pain to a father as it is to the entire family. And seeing the family in pain and misery, others think twice before thinking to have a girl child, not think once before killing her.

Wait, there is more. Now that poor, unfortunate and unlucky Patient X has passed away, with the massive protests, is it all the more reason for parents to think thrice about having a girl child?

With less girls, more men are unmarried and they do not get to have the life of married men, including sex. As shown in the Aamir Khan show “Satyameva Jayathe”, there are already communities who are literally buying women as wives. Now, is it not also a forced, brutal rape of the woman? She is raped everyday, threatened to be sold off again pr exchanged for a new wife.

What makes these men rape?

  1. Lust
  2. Power of aides working with Political parties
  3. Assumption of Easy targets
  4. Secluded places
  5. Weak Law and Punishment
  6. and many more

Of the above, you cant do nothing about Lust. I saw and read many people calling the rapists as animals. Well if you do so be aware that, as Animals don’t force sex. They have to cajole the female so much before the female allows them have an intercourse. If there are more male than females, there is a competition of sorts and the winner in the female’s eyes get to make out. These are demons. Evil.

What should be done?

The government has to come up with a new law, new order. Pass an ordinance that all unsolved cases of rape must be tried under the newer law. The police has to tighten up their delivery of responsibilities by making themselves more approachable, their biggest flak.

More often than not, the police are hand in glove with the local politicians, goons, or both. They fear losing their job, being subjected to transfers to remote places, and try to earn back the money they paid as bribe to get the job by taking more bribe. This needs to be curbed. One reason why I appreciate Sony Television repeat telecasting the Anil Kapoor starer Nayak is because of what it shows – What a person sitting on the Chief Ministers seat is capable of doing.

And then, its our part of action and what we need to do.

  1. Encourage respect for women and men from childhood
  2. Introduce martial arts education to women, make it compulsory
  3. Do not consider differences in gender
  4. Dont demand Dowry
  5. Offer protection to women in need
  6. Do not let this rage fade out

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What does real beauty mean to you?

It was a much needed break for me to blog about something that I appreciate everyday! Beauty.

Beauty is what? A simple answer to that question is: Everything you feel beautiful is beauty. As oft quoted in conversations, “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”. Its all how we feel..

During my college, one day I was with a few of my classmates, savoring a hot “vada pav at the tapri” breakfast and saw a couple walking hand in hand. The boy was really handsome, but girl was not so. That’s when I remembered the quote “Agar dil laga gadhi se, toh pari kya cheez hai” (If heart is struck to a donkey, even an angel is nothing)” 😛

dil laga gadhi se, toh pari kya cheez hai
Its funny, but shows out why only looks does not matter!

We were also taught by two professors who were married to each other, both of them from opposite ends of India, he is a dark dude and she is the snow white.

I am a firm believer of the inner beauty and my friends can vouch for that. It’s a feeling that you can see on the skin and beneath it in humans and animals (or should I include fur for animals? :P) and ever so awesome nature.

There are so many real beauties out there, in the form of a mother, as a wife, as a friend, a role model, a sister, a lover, every relation and emotion we share with many women is so beautiful. My father and mother worked together too hard to bring me and my sister up from total financial breakdown, which speaks volumes of their beautiful relationship with my family.

Real Beauty is you, Within you and around you!
Real Beauty is you, Within you and around you!

Dove and Yahoo! brings you all a wonderful platform called as the Real Beauty. It’s one place where I invite every women (yes, including the one who called me being a sexist) on this world to come and share their feelings on this wonderful platform. Those who joined in already have posted so many meaningful blog posts had have sought expert opinions, got inspired with the Women who brought in change in today’s society, soon to be launched Expert Chat et al.

And yes, am making sure my mom and sister too are participating and so will be many (girl)friends of mine 😉

To all those who believe in the inner beauty, here is a small poem. It’s the poem I wrote for my mom, who has been so beautiful to me…

In my heart, I can see,
How much lovely you have been,
I miss your care, and that lovely stare,
To me, how beautiful you have been,

You understand me,
You speak my mind,
You know everything,
And still you be kind,

You feel for the poor,
You care,
You feed them with love,
Happy that you could share,

See those smiles, so beautiful,
Of the kids on the streets you met,
Times you spent with me on beach,
Watching the amazing sunset,

When the rain makes a mess on the streets,
The mighty Sun creates a Rainbow,
Running from a city to another,
To your supernatural force, I take a big bow,

Among the moon and the sun,
The birds and flowers and hue,
I now know what is real beauty,
It is you mom, and what’s within you.

Thank you very much mom, for being the most beautiful person to me.

These thoughts I have put together are true, and I participating in a contest at IndiBlogger, What does real beauty mean to you? If you like my post, please consider voting for me.


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Women and their addiction to men’s height!

Once I was having a lighter discussion with my mom when she revealed that she would have preffered a taller man to a same heighted or slightly tall. My dad is taller, but not much. During those days women hardly get to choose. Ever since, I am still trying to find out why women like taller men. When I say taller, it means taller atleast by 5′ taller.

Crica 2009

Just because I really didnt had any mood to work today, I tried to do a small research (read: bird watching) on Shaadi.com. I saw a few beautiful girls there, but what surprised me here was that most of the good looking girls there had set parameters similar to what I described above. Height was important for them.

I am 5″3′ tall and am fair and when I looked at those women who share the same height as mine wanted someone who was 5″8′ tall. (more…)